I am a fan of being grateful, I do it every morning and it never fails to reset my mood, yet I’m usually grateful for external things or events, I rarely think about what I do well.

Like most people I go to bed thinking about what I can do better tomorrow. No perfectionism here! In all seriousness, it’s not the most positive way to go to sleep.

Then I read this little bit of wisdom in the book Option B, by Sheryl Sandberg. Before you go to sleep, look back on your day and reflect on 3 things you did well.

This strategy works really well when you are having one of those days when this thought raises its ugly head “everything is going wrong, I can’t do anything right!”

Nip that in the bud before you lose hours of sleep, take a deep breathe, reflect positively on the day, and ask:

What 3 Things Did I do Well Today?

Simple yet effective. Well, maybe not so simple for those of us who are overly critical of ourselves, we can lie there for hours struggling to think of even one big thing we did well, so I suggest you ditch the need to solve all of the worlds problems, and start small.

When I say start small, how small? To help you along I’ll share some of mine:

  • Parallel parked like an expert on a busy Sydney street (especially proud of this one!)
  • Booked a ticket for a business networking event (networking is not scary!)
  • Finished another module towards achieving money archetypes certification
  • Made an awesome cup of tea
  • Meditated for 10 minutes
  • Reached out to a friend to wish her all the best in her new business venture
  • Walked the dog
  • Offered to put the neighbours bins out while they are on holiday
  • Made pate for the first time, it was delicious
  • Got out of bed, early!

None of these things are going to change the world, nor are they about boosting my ego, however when I take the time to look back on my day, no matter what type of day, I can find three things that I did well.

So how would you like to go to sleep? Worrying about what you can do better tomorrow, or celebrating what you did well today?

I would love to know what 3 things you did well today.

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Extra Cash – The Finale! Christmas Casual Work (Part 1)

Extra Cash – The Finale! Christmas Casual Work (Part 1)

It may seem redundant to blog about Christmas casual work in February, but stay with me because the message remains relevant.

Let’s go back to the beginning, why did I do all this? eBay, AirBNB, getting really sore feet working as a Christmas casual? Was it for:

Cash jackpot!!! – not really, although it was great to earn extra money

Glory – glory,  glory, hallelujah. Not my aim, but I did myself proud.

or Wealthy Chick went crazy – excellent guess, but it’s sort of my natural state.

The real reason I was motivated to do this was a growing concern that although a lot of people I meet say they want more wealth, they don’t do anything! Let’s look at some of the reasons why this might happen:

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Don’t look/ Cannot see the opportunities – there a lots of opportunities to any problem, but sometimes we get so stuck we don’t look, or we have a bit of a peek and if we can’t see an opportunity immediately we give up. This may be the time to stop thinking so hard, or ask for help. You know those times when the first person you approach comes up with a simple solution, the one staring you in the face, the WHOLE FREAKING TIME. So you call them a smarty pants bitch, because they are! Yet, drum roll to my next point……

Still don’t do anything! Nothing, nada, what the! I suffer from this, I frustrate myself, it’s not logical, I do nothing. Fear creeps in, mostly unfounded, and to make it worse, the longer I put it off the harder it becomes to take action. This leads to my next point….

Amazing Excuses –some may call them reasons. Yes, some options will not be possible, but when you workshop a list of opportunities and the “reasons” why every option won’t work are getting very creative/ petty, they are excuses. A go to excuse for me is ” I will do it wrong”, and yet I insist I’m not a perfectionist, mm we’ll leave that alone. Which brings me to my next reason, and some tough love is in store…

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Love their story – I’m not saying anyone likes being an  Un-Wealthy Chick, but at times we sure as shit love talking about it, passionately, over and over again. This is not to be confused with asking for helping and some background information is important. This is when you repeat your “woe is me, it’s harder for me” story, vocally and in your head, so often that the story sticks and becomes a part of you. You’re convinced what you earn is all you can earn, there are no opportunities, and if an opportunity sneaks up and slaps you in the face it will be so far removed from your reality that it’s impossible…and it will be, for you.

So how do you overcome the fear, the crappy excuses, and the overwhelming urge to stay in your horrible, but comfortable, story? Warning, you might not like the answer.

Dive in, take one step. This is me skydiving, initially I was very scared, and the little step out of the plane seemed impossible, but it quickly turned to excitement, yes that is a very happy face! Location: Queenstown, New Zealand.

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Just like skydiving, at first everything in this series felt uncomfortable but it was momentary. I didn’t get hurt, I didn’t get much wrong, I achieved additional income and more importantly, pride in myself and my capabilities. I am reminded of a quote from the fabulous Winnie the Pooh:

“Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.”  Good advice from a bear.

As this blog has so much information I created a two-part mini series, with the last episode  based on my Christmas casual experience, coming later today. I promise it ties everything together.

Extra Cash Part 2 – Selling on eBay

Extra Cash Part 2 – Selling on eBay

As I mentioned last week, I had never sold on eBay, although for years I had every intention of selling a beautiful, but heavy, handbag and never got around to it.

Why was I reluctant to sell on eBay?

I had a think about why I had avoided selling on eBay, and reached out to friends for their thoughts and experiences. Here’s our top concerns about selling on eBay:

  • Time consuming
  • A hassle
  • Not worth it financially
  • Items don’t sell, or sell too low

WHAT FUN, all the words you don’t want to hear as you embark on something new. Now I remember why I hadn’t bothered with eBay, it sounded too hard.

What’s a wealthy chick to do? There are more than a million sellers on eBay, are they all having a bad experience? Surely not, so I decided to make this work.

eBay – “ We can do this, yes we can” (sing to Bob the Builder theme, just because)

Spoiler alert – I found selling on eBay easy and definitely worth it financially as compared to the time invested. Like AirBNB,  the eBay site is easy to use and provides intuitive assistance.

First – what to sell?

I focused on quality clothes and handbags, although what you sell is unique to you. Why clothes and handbags? As a female, and it pains me to admit, I had too many of both!

I reviewed my wardrobe and if I hadn’t worn an item in 2 years it went on eBay or to a charity bin. In the end, more items went to charity than eBay, which is a nice bonus.

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The items I sold on eBay were in excellent condition, from well known brands, and still fashionable.

Second – How to sell?

First you need to register as a seller on eBay, which was simple, especially if you already have Paypal. My advice, get a Paypal account, it’s useful on so many platforms

I decided to auction my items with a low reserve rather than listing a set price. This decision was based on the fact I purchased the items with the intention of wearing them, so any sale above $1 was a profit.

To avoid disappointment and stress, treat this as a financial transaction and limit your expectations of the final price. For those who complain that items sell for less than they are worth, let it go! The item is worth nil in the wardrobe, plus eBay is one of the largest markets in the world, and the market decides the value, not the seller.

Third – Comprehensive ad

My first step is to quickly review ads for items that are the same/similar, solely for tips.

Take lots of photos, front, back, label, packaging (if any), and write a detailed description. Pretend you are the buyer, what would you want to know? Mention the material, length, height, width, size, brand etc. The photos and detailed description help with both the sale and to minimise queries.

I listed 14 items and I only had 1 query, asking if the item was genuine, which is a reasonable query and I was not offended. This feedback is what led me to post photos of labels and packaging, plus a reason why the item had not been used.

Queries are great, it means someone is interested and your positive response may lead to a bid, plus you can use the feedback to improve the ad.

By the third item I could take photos, write and post the ad in less than 5 minutes, easy.

Four – Post the ad

I post ads for a week, and this is VERY IMPORTANT,

NO LOOKING until you receive an email from eBay with the results

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By following this tip you avoid a truckload of angst, wondering:

  • has anyone viewed the item
  • will anyone bid
  • does everyone hate my stuff
  • do I have bad taste
  • why are the bids so low!

Get over it, most of the action happens on the last day so let go of your curiosity, reduce your stress and let eBay do its work.

At the end of the auction period eBay advises if the item has sold, or not.If the item hasn’t sold it will relist, for free. If it never sells, so be it, it hasn’t cost you anything.

Five – send the item & get paid

It’s that simple and payment happens within 21 days, quicker as you build a profile.

Thanks to a “can do” attitude, and a rough plan, I sold 13 items for a very healthy profit. It wasn’t hard, and I am now an eBay convert for both selling and buying.

If you like what you’ve read and would like targeted coaching on becoming a wealthy chick (or dude), visit my new website www.wealthychicks.com.au (its in the final stages of construction) and sign up for a coaching package. I’d love to help you understand and remove the barriers holding you back from being happy, healthy and wealthy.

My Top Reason for Doing Things that Scare me

My Top Reason for Doing Things that Scare me

“Do one thing everyday that scares you”

A very famous quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that resonates with a lot of people, myself included.

We all probably know the usual reasons why it’s important to go outside your comfort zone and do things that “scare” us, make us uncomfortable, slightly anxious, just a little bit afraid…..or crap our pants.

  • for personal growth
  • to learn
  • have a new experience
  • live richer fuller lives

All great benefits, blah blah blah.

My top reason for doing something that scares me?

To have a celebration and a pat on the back!

Yes, do scary stuff to reward yourself! Which leads me back to the cover photo, my little celebration, a glass of rose in my special Wedgewood crystal with a scented candle, for doing a few things that scared me.

So what scares Wealthy Chick? Lots, and this week it was launching my first Facebook ad and finding the right person to build my website. I know, frightening stuff, a recurring theme that my life is an award winning horror movie.

So why was I scared? That most common fear, that I didn’t know what I was doing and I would do it wrong! Plus for the website I dislike working with trades people because I fear being ripped off. Despite these fears (which are mostly in my head) I jumped in, and with a bit of research both turned out well. Yay for me, celebration time.

Now you might think my fears weren’t that big, and guess what, in hindsight I agree, but before giving it a go I was anxious, felt uncomfortable and had to really motivate myself to do either.

Fears don’t need to be Big and Hairy to be Scary!

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Last but definitely not least I’ll share a story of my brave friend Donna. I asked Donna to give my bootcamp a go as I know Donna likes to exercise outdoors when the weather is good. So what is scary about that you think?

Plenty, this was the first time Donna had ever attended a bootcamp, with people she had never met before, who could all be really fit! So what got Donna over the line, well it was free, a small group and I was there (okay, I could be over emphasising my involvement!).

Donna did amazing, and it was a bloody hard bootcamp. So how did Donna celebrate? With a delicious steak sandwich, on sourdough, yep that’s a celebration!

Do the stuff that scares you. I promise you taking the first step is the hardest and you won’t regret it. And then celebrate, use the expensive candles, the fancy crystal, drink the wine and eat the steak sandwich.

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